When I started this blog (on this site) in 2020, I thought of it as a wholly new venture, distinct in nature and purpose from previous blogging that I had done elsewhere (i.e. on Facebook). Since then, however, I have relocated all of my old Facebook “Notes” posts to this space. This was partly for practical reasons (FB discontinued its “Notes” feature), partly because it just feels more satisfying to have all my bloggish writings together in one place and on my own site, and partly because my sense of this blog’s purpose has (inevitably, and happily) evolved since I started it.
Initially, the major purpose of this blog was to serve as an outlet for writings on the general theme of coping with my divorce and with life after divorce. Prior to the summer of 2020, when I decided that I needed such an outlet, my impulses to share writings of this sort with others had often been checked both by an instinct to keep vulnerable feelings (relatively) private, and (maybe especially) by uncertainty as to others’ interest in reading them. But neither of these considerations lent itself to increasing my connectedness to other humans, which was something that was coming to the forefront of my thoughts in the months leading up to starting this venture. As the name of my site was meant to suggest, I kind of felt like I needed to push myself in new directions. I therefore started this blog with the idea of challenging myself to get past the aforementioned fears, while leaving decisions about interest level up to the individual (potential) reader.
Even in 2020, though, it felt a bit “late” for me to be starting a divorce blog, as I had already made significant strides toward “moving on” by that point. And since then, my life has moved on even more dramatically. I’m no longer in a place where I feel preoccupied with, or like my life is defined by, my post-divorce status and struggles to come to terms therewith; in fact, I’m getting married, and looking forward to a whole new, exciting chapter of my life! I continue to want to honor and acknowledge the origins of this blog, as well as to embrace the larger spirit and purpose with which I began it (pushing myself to share my thoughts and feelings openly, with anyone who cares to read about them). But I also need to reconceptualize it in accordance with the ways that my life has changed (for the better!). The divorce-related posts are still here, but so now are all my accounts of vacation trips, as well as a variety of other musings (some quite old)—and hopefully I will continue to add pieces on a variety of topics going forward, too!